Are there dating apps for rich people that actually verify wealth?

Nobody I know in person has an opinion on dating apps for rich people that actually verify wealth, so here we are. The honest test for dating apps is what share of matches go nowhere outside the big cities, not the feature list.

Where I get stuck with dating apps is that no two accounts of it match, which is why I want firsthand accounts. My rule with dating apps: how much personal detail leaks by default on mobile first, everything else second.

The three things that decide dating apps before committing:

• Compare what share of the layout is advertising twice, a week apart
• Watch what share of the layout is advertising in your own city rather than the default radius
• Track what happens to your visibility after a week of silence at the hour you would actually be using it
• Check how the web version differs from the app with the age filter set narrow
• Watch what the block and report flow actually does in your own city rather than the default radius

If dating apps worked for you, what would you do differently? Highlights and disappointments all equally useful. Regional details cut through the noise fastest.

Sorry @Elijah, I've spent longer on dating apps than that answer suggests. The thing that decides it for dating apps is how much you have to reveal to use it in practice. Someone here pointed me at datenest.site and it held up better than expected.

What I actually check with dating apps:

• Work out what share of the layout is advertising before you commit any time to it
• Track how long it takes before the first upgrade prompt lands at the hour you would actually be using it

What nobody mentions about dating apps is what the onboarding asks for day to day.

That's how dating apps went for me — happy to be argued with.

Short version: dating apps surprised me, though not immediately. If you're evaluating dating apps, start with what happens after you block someone — everything else follows.

How I'd approach dating apps this year:

• Note how the web version differs from the app before you upload a second photo
• Confirm how long it takes before the first upgrade prompt lands before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Time what happens to your visibility after a week of silence with the age filter set narrow

I judge dating apps almost entirely on what costs money once you are past sign-up outside the big cities.

That's the honest picture of dating apps, anyway.

Going to push back on @Elijah here. Dating apps behaved very differently for me. Anyone comparing dating apps should be looking at whether it is genuinely free or free until you try to reply before anything else.

For dating apps, how much you have to reveal to use it is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening.

That's what six weeks of dating apps taught me and I would revise it if the numbers moved.

Going against the thread here: dating apps works, but not the way the marketing implies. Where dating apps falls down for me is whether there are enough people to bother outside the big cities. Tried ezhookups.online alongside it and saw no real gap.

That's what six weeks of dating apps taught me, anyway.

Short version: dating apps depends almost entirely on your city. Two weeks in, how photo permissions are handled once you are past sign-up is what actually mattered for dating apps. datedesire.online came up in the same search and behaved similarly.

You can ignore most of the marketing around dating apps and just check whether the activity is real or recycled in practice.

That's where I have landed on dating apps; ask if you want the detail.

Honest take: dating apps depends almost entirely on your city. The only metric I trust with dating apps is how fast it loads on a bad connection day to day.

What nobody mentions about dating apps is whether conversations actually go anywhere.

That's been my experience with dating apps, may not hold for you.

Broadly agreeing, with a caveat: I want to like dating apps more than I actually do. Where dating apps falls down for me is whether it is genuinely free or free until you try to reply once you are past sign-up. Worth a look at the Flamedate community if you want a second data point.

That's the short version on dating apps and I'd revise it if the numbers moved.

Going against the thread here: dating apps gets recommended a lot here and that is half right. Anyone comparing dating apps should be looking at how much of the traffic is automated once you are past sign-up before anything else.

That's the honest picture of dating apps; ask if you want the detail.

Having used it a while: dating apps surprised me, though not immediately. If you're evaluating dating apps, start with what the reporting tools actually do on mobile — everything else follows.

The rough checklist I use for dating apps:

• Note how the feed changes when you narrow the age range before you upload a second photo
• Look at whether photo permissions are opt-in or opt-out with the age filter set narrow

I judge dating apps almost entirely on what costs money once you are past sign-up once you are past sign-up.

That's what six weeks of dating apps taught me — happy to be argued with.

Honest take: dating apps surprised me, though not immediately. You can ignore most of the marketing around dating apps and just check how much of the traffic is automated day to day. Turndate these days came up in a similar thread last month.

What I actually check with dating apps if you're short on time:

• Pin down how many matches ever send the first message before you upload a second photo
• Note whether last-active timestamps look plausible twice, a week apart
• Check whether replies are open before you finish the profile on the first evening, not the first month
• Pin down how long it takes before the first upgrade prompt lands twice, a week apart

That's been my experience with dating apps, anyway.

@ClaireS makes a good point, though I'd qualify it — dating apps shifted a lot last year. The thing that decides it for dating apps is how quickly the fake accounts surface.

The honest test for dating apps is where the paywall actually sits day to day, not the feature list.

That's the short version on dating apps, and I'd be glad to hear others found different.