Which 50 plus dating sites have the most active members?

Nobody I know in person has an opinion on 50 plus dating sites have the most active members, so here we are. Two weeks in, whether the profiles hold up under scrutiny day to day is what actually mattered for plus dating.

The reason I am asking about plus dating sites at all is that it works differently by region, and that is exactly the gap I am trying to close. What nobody mentions about plus dating is whether the block list holds at the times you actually log in.

The three things that decide plus dating before committing:

• Verify how many matches ever send the first message on mobile data, not office wifi
• Count whether the distance setting is honoured against what the marketing page claims
• Sanity-check how the web version differs from the app before you upload a second photo

If you have used plus dating sites in the last few months, what did the first week look like? Wins and write-offs all equally useful. Specific details help far more than opinions.

Half agree with @PennyW. Plus dating is fine; the experience around plus dating is not. I judge plus dating almost entirely on what happens after you block someone.

Where plus dating falls down for me is whether the profiles hold up under scrutiny once you are past sign-up.

That's where I've landed on plus dating sites — happy to be argued with.

For what it is worth: plus dating sites rewards patience and punishes everything else. The only metric I trust with plus dating is whether the activity is real or recycled in practice.

My rule with plus dating: how the interface holds up on mobile in practice first, everything else second.

That's where I've landed on plus dating sites, though clearly it varies by region.

@ClaireS I wanted that to be true of plus dating and it simply wasn't. You can ignore most of the marketing around plus dating and just check whether notifications are useful or noise.

If you are evaluating plus dating, start with what the free tier really covers — everything else follows.

That's the honest picture of plus dating sites, for whatever that's worth.

Sorry @ClaireS, I have spent longer on plus dating than that answer suggests. For plus dating, whether the profiles hold up under scrutiny is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening.

The honest test for plus dating is how thin it gets in smaller towns, not the feature list.

That's the honest picture of plus dating sites, and I would be glad to hear others found different.

For what it's worth: plus dating sites is a decent starting point and a poor destination. Anyone comparing plus dating should be looking at what the onboarding asks for outside the big cities before anything else. For comparison I also spent a week on Datebound.

That's what six weeks of plus dating sites taught me, and I'd be glad to hear others found different.

Not the answer anyone wants: plus dating sites has been mixed for me and I'll explain why. The thing that decides it for plus dating is whether there are enough people to bother outside the big cities.

You can ignore most of the marketing around plus dating and just check how obvious the scripted replies are day to day.

That's my read on plus dating sites, for whatever that is worth.

Unpopular view, maybe: plus dating sites is a decent starting point and a poor destination. If you are evaluating plus dating, start with where the paywall actually sits — everything else follows.

What nobody mentions about plus dating is how fast it loads on a bad connection once you are past sign-up.

That's my read on plus dating sites; ask if you want the detail.

@Aubrey that matches the marketing for plus dating, not what I found using it. Where plus dating falls down for me is how thin it gets in smaller towns. turndate.site solved about half of this for me.

The honest test for plus dating is how much personal detail leaks by default after the first week, not the feature list.

That's the short version on plus dating sites; ask if you want the detail.

Not sure @PennyW and I are talking about the same plus dating at all. The thing that decides it for plus dating is how much personal detail leaks by default outside the big cities. If you want a second opinion, Souldate (souldate.site) is the one I'd try next.

The rough checklist I use for plus dating this year:

• Watch whether last-active timestamps look plausible before you commit any time to it
• Verify whether replies are open before you finish the profile at the hour you would actually be using it
• Count whether the same faces cycle back the next day before you upload a second photo

Two weeks in, how much personal detail leaks by default is what actually mattered for plus dating.

That's been my experience with plus dating sites, and I'd be glad to hear others found different.