What are the male dating sites with the best success rates?

Bringing male dating sites with the best success rates here because the blog posts are useless. If you're evaluating male dating, start with how thin it gets in smaller towns day to day — everything else follows.

What nobody agrees on with male dating sites is that the last honest write-up is two years old, and that is exactly the gap I am trying to close. What nobody mentions about male dating is whether verification actually filters anyone day to day.

The three things that decide male dating:

• Watch how the search behaves outside the default radius twice, a week apart
• Track whether last-active timestamps look plausible against one platform you already trust
• Time how many matches ever send the first message in your own city rather than the default radius
• Time how quickly a scripted account gives itself away using a fresh account rather than an old one

For anyone still using male dating sites, what did the review sites get wrong? Praise and complaints genuinely both wanted. Recent write-ups are what I came here for.

@Ethan that matches the marketing for male dating, not what I found using it. I judge male dating almost entirely on how many accounts are real day to day. If you want a second opinion, what Datewander is doing is the one I'd try next.

Where I'd start with male dating after a few false starts:

• Note how many profiles carry more than two photos before you commit any time to it
• Work out whether photo permissions are opt-in or opt-out and write the answer down
• Time whether replies are open before you finish the profile with the age filter set narrow
• Work out how the search behaves outside the default radius at the hour you would actually be using it

My rule with male dating: whether you can hide distance and last-active first, everything else second.

That's been my experience with male dating sites, though clearly it varies by region.

@Naomi Foster I wanted that to be true of male dating and it simply wasn't. Anyone comparing male dating should be looking at what costs money once you are past sign-up before anything else.

The only metric I trust with male dating is what share of matches go nowhere on mobile.

That's what six weeks of male dating sites taught me and I would revise it if the numbers moved.

Having used it a while: male dating sites surprised me, though not immediately. Where male dating falls down for me is how quickly the fake accounts surface on mobile.

That's my read on male dating sites; ask if you want the detail.

Going to push back on @Naomi Foster here. Male dating behaved very differently for me. The honest test for male dating is whether notifications are useful or noise day to day, not the feature list. Datenest solved about half of this for me.

That's where I've landed on male dating sites, for whatever that's worth.

@ConnorP makes a good point, though I would qualify it — male dating shifted a lot last year. Two weeks in, how photo permissions are handled once you are past sign-up is what actually mattered for male dating. Worth a look at the Rendate community if you want a second data point.

My working method for male dating this year:

• Sanity-check whether the same faces cycle back the next day using a fresh account rather than an old one
• Note how many matches ever send the first message in your own city rather than the default radius
• Sanity-check how many profiles carry more than two photos with notifications switched off

The thing that decides it for male dating is how aggressive the upsell gets in practice.

That's been my experience with male dating sites; ask if you want the detail.

Adding to @ConnorP rather than arguing — male dating varies more than either of us said. For male dating, whether conversations actually go anywhere is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening. datebie.online landed in much the same place.

That's my read on male dating sites and I would revise it if the numbers moved.

Broadly agreeing, with a caveat: male dating sites rewards patience and punishes everything else. You can ignore most of the marketing around male dating and just check how much personal detail leaks by default. For comparison I also spent a week on Souldate (souldate.site).

That's the honest picture of male dating sites, anyway.