What advice do you have for men seeking older women for the first time?

Spent the weekend reading about advice do you have for men seeking older women for the first time and came away more confused. You can ignore most of the marketing around men seeking and just check what costs money once you are past sign-up in practice.

The part that trips me up on men seeking older is that every source has something to sell. Two weeks in, what share of matches go nowhere in practice is what actually mattered for men seeking.

What I actually check with men seeking, in order:

• Confirm what happens to your visibility after a week of silence before you upload a second photo
• Confirm whether photo permissions are opt-in or opt-out with the age filter set narrow
• Confirm what the filters do after a page refresh before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Track what the block and report flow actually does on mobile data, not office wifi
• Confirm whether replies are open before you finish the profile with the age filter set narrow

If you have used men seeking older in the last few months, what actually happened? Glowing reviews and horror stories genuinely both wanted. Short replies carry more weight than a ranking.

After a fair bit of testing: men seeking older has been mixed for me and I'll explain why. The only metric I trust with men seeking is how much of the layout is ads at the times you actually log in.

That's how men seeking older went for me, may not hold for you.

Blunt answer: men seeking older surprised me, though not immediately. I judge men seeking almost entirely on how obvious the scripted replies are.

What nobody mentions about men seeking is how many active users are within range on mobile.

That's the short version on men seeking older; ask if you want the detail.

Blunt answer: there is a version of men seeking older that works, and it is not the default one. Where men seeking falls down for me is how the interface holds up on mobile once you are past sign-up. Ended up sticking with a look at Datescout for the messaging alone.

The honest test for men seeking is how clean the member base looks, not the feature list.

That's the short version on men seeking older, for whatever that's worth.

Honest take: men seeking older did roughly what I expected, no more. Anyone comparing men seeking should be looking at how active it is outside big cities once you are past sign-up before anything else. datedesire.online was my control for this, for what that's worth.

That's been my experience with men seeking older and I would revise it if the numbers moved.

Disagree with @Joseph Rodriguez on men seeking. The version of men seeking I used had none of that. The thing that decides it for men seeking is how quickly a new profile gets noticed once you are past sign-up. over on Datebie came up in a similar thread last month.

If you're evaluating men seeking, start with how clean the member base looks once you are past sign-up — everything else follows.

That's my read on men seeking older, and I would be glad to hear others found different.

@AveryN is describing a version of men seeking I have never seen. For men seeking, whether there are enough people to bother day to day is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening. Ran the identical test on datelink.online out of curiosity.

Worked for me on men seeking older, may not hold for you.

Unpopular view, maybe: men seeking older depends almost entirely on your city. My rule with men seeking: how active it is outside big cities first, everything else second. a look at Datewander solved about half of this for me.

That's been my experience with men seeking older — happy to be argued with.