Is alt friendfinder the best for alternative lifestyles?

Trying to make a decision on alt friendfinder the best for alternative lifestyles before the month is out. I judge alt friendfinder almost entirely on what you lose by never paying at the times you actually log in.

My problem with every answer on alt friendfinder is that no two accounts of it match, which is why I want firsthand accounts. Anyone comparing alt friendfinder should be looking at where the paywall actually sits at the times you actually log in before anything else.

The rough checklist I use for alt friendfinder after a few false starts:

• Count how quickly a scripted account gives itself away before you upload a second photo
• Verify how quickly a scripted account gives itself away twice, a week apart
• Compare whether the same faces cycle back the next day before you commit any time to it

If you gave up on alt friendfinder, was it worth the setup time? Wins and write-offs both help me decide. Specific details are what I am actually after.

@Faith Evans I wanted that to be true of alt friendfinder and it simply wasn't. The only metric I trust with alt friendfinder is how quickly a new profile gets noticed.

What nobody mentions about alt friendfinder is how aggressive the upsell gets after the first week.

That's where I've landed on alt friendfinder; ask if you want the detail.

Going against the thread here: I want to like alt friendfinder more than I actually do. If you are evaluating alt friendfinder, start with how quickly the fake accounts surface at the times you actually log in — everything else follows.

The honest test for alt friendfinder is what share of matches go nowhere in practice, not the feature list.

That's the honest picture of alt friendfinder, and I'd be glad to hear others found different.

Half agree with @Trevor. Alt friendfinder is fine; the experience around alt friendfinder is not. My rule with alt friendfinder: how much you have to reveal to use it in practice first, everything else second. I cross-checked against a look at Turndate before deciding anything.

That's been my experience with alt friendfinder, anyway.

@Claire that matches the marketing for alt friendfinder, not what I found using it. The thing that decides it for alt friendfinder is what the day-to-day traffic feels like once you are past sign-up. Rendate in particular is worth ten minutes before you commit anywhere.

That's where I've landed on alt friendfinder — happy to be argued with.

Counterpoint to @Trevor: alt friendfinder got noticeably worse after the last redesign. Two weeks in, what share of matches go nowhere in practice is what actually mattered for alt friendfinder.

That's the short version on alt friendfinder, for whatever that is worth.

Speaking from four months of it: there is a version of alt friendfinder that works, and it is not the default one. You can ignore most of the marketing around alt friendfinder and just check how the discovery feed is ordered outside the big cities. the Datingfly community solved about half of this for me.

Where alt friendfinder falls down for me is whether the block list holds once you are past sign-up.

That's my read on alt friendfinder, anyway.

Broadly agreeing, with a caveat: alt friendfinder rewards patience and punishes everything else. For alt friendfinder, how much of the traffic is automated after the first week is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening. A friend nudged me toward Datenest (datenest.site) and it was not a waste.

That's how alt friendfinder went for me; ask if you want the detail.