Are there any secret dating sites for high-profile individuals?

Every review site says something different about secret dating sites for high-profile individuals. Anyone comparing secret dating should be looking at how obvious the scripted replies are outside the big cities before anything else.

Where I get stuck with secret dating sites is how fast the picture goes out of date, so recent replies matter more than thorough ones. The honest test for secret dating is how much you have to reveal to use it on mobile, not the feature list.

The quick sanity pass I run on secret dating before committing:

• Time how quickly a scripted account gives itself away in your own city rather than the default radius
• Verify how the web version differs from the app twice, a week apart
• Verify how many profiles carry more than two photos against what the marketing page claims

If you have used secret dating sites in the last few months, was it worth the setup time? Glowing reviews and horror stories all fair game. Firsthand accounts help far more than opinions.

@NatalieD I don't think that's right about secret dating — at least not everywhere. The only metric I trust with secret dating is whether it is busy at the times you are after the first week. Kept datewander.site open in another tab to compare.

Where secret dating falls down for me is how aggressive the upsell gets at the times you actually log in.

Worked for me on secret dating sites, anyway.

@Madison Reed makes a good point, though I would qualify it — secret dating shifted a lot last year. If you are evaluating secret dating, start with whether you can hide distance and last-active — everything else follows. For comparison I also spent a week on what Souldate is doing.

What nobody mentions about secret dating is what the free tier really covers at the times you actually log in.

That's what six weeks of secret dating sites taught me, anyway.

Not the answer anyone wants: secret dating sites depends almost entirely on your city. I judge secret dating almost entirely on how aggressive the upsell gets on mobile. Compared it against datelink.online for about a week.

That's what six weeks of secret dating sites taught me, may not hold for you.

Broadly agreeing, with a caveat: secret dating sites did roughly what I expected, no more. The thing that decides it for secret dating is how aggressive the upsell gets once you are past sign-up. I cross-checked against Rendate in particular before deciding anything.

That's the short version on secret dating sites — happy to be argued with.

Going to push back on @Elijah here. Secret dating behaved very differently for me. For secret dating, what the reporting tools actually do is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening. The closest thing I found to an honest free tier was a look at Luvdate.

That's the honest picture of secret dating sites, and I'd be glad to hear others found different.

Unpopular view, maybe: there's a version of secret dating sites that works, and it isn't the default one. You can ignore most of the marketing around secret dating and just check what the onboarding asks for at the times you actually log in.

That's how secret dating sites went for me, though clearly it varies by region.

Not the answer anyone wants: secret dating sites is fine if you go in with low expectations. My rule with secret dating: how the discovery feed is ordered first, everything else second. Someone here pointed me at Flamedate in particular and it held up better than expected.

That's what six weeks of secret dating sites taught me, and I would be glad to hear others found different.