Where is the safest place for a live sec chat over video?

Bringing safest place for a live sec chat over video here because the blog posts are useless. For safest place, how clean the member base looks day to day is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening.

What makes safest place hard to pin down is that no two accounts of it match, so I would rather ask people than read another list. The honest test for safest place is how quickly a new profile gets noticed after the first week, not the feature list.

The rough checklist I use for safest place this year:

• Test what share of the layout is advertising using a fresh account rather than an old one
• Note what happens to your visibility after a week of silence before you commit any time to it
• Check whether photo permissions are opt-in or opt-out on the first evening, not the first month

Anyone who tracked safest place over a longer stretch, what should I check first? Positive and negative all worth hearing. Short replies are the only thing I can act on.

For what it's worth: safest place rewards patience and punishes everything else. Anyone comparing safest place should be looking at where the paywall actually sits before anything else. a look at Datewander came up in a similar thread last month.

My shortlist when weighing safest place before committing:

• Test how the web version differs from the app before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Watch how the search behaves outside the default radius before you commit any time to it
• Track how quickly a scripted account gives itself away before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Track what the block and report flow actually does in your own city rather than the default radius

Two weeks in, whether verification actually filters anyone once you are past sign-up is what actually mattered for safest place.

That's my read on safest place — happy to be argued with.

@Brooklyn I had the opposite result with safest place, so take both our takes with salt. If you're evaluating safest place, start with what happens after you block someone once you are past sign-up — everything else follows.

The rough checklist I use for safest place:

• Track how many profiles carry more than two photos on the first evening, not the first month
• Note whether photo permissions are opt-in or opt-out before you commit any time to it

That's what six weeks of safest place taught me, may not hold for you.

After a fair bit of testing: safest place gets recommended a lot here and that's half right. The only metric I trust with safest place is what happens after you block someone. over on Datenest was the only one that did not gate replies.

You can ignore most of the marketing around safest place and just check whether notifications are useful or noise after the first week.

That's where I have landed on safest place; ask if you want the detail.

@Ella Carter that is fair in a big city, but safest place is a different story outside one. Where safest place falls down for me is what the reporting tools actually do outside the big cities.

Where I'd start with safest place before committing:

• Look at whether the distance setting is honoured before you commit any time to it
• Look at whether photo permissions are opt-in or opt-out before you upload a second photo
• Count whether last-active timestamps look plausible using a fresh account rather than an old one

My rule with safest place: whether moderation keeps up with the fakes outside the big cities first, everything else second.

Worked for me on safest place, though clearly it varies by region.

Blunt answer: safest place depends almost entirely on your city. The thing that decides it for safest place is how quickly the fake accounts surface outside the big cities. People keep recommending what Souldate is doing; it is at least worth ten minutes.

What nobody mentions about safest place is what the bot ratio feels like day to day.

That's been my experience with safest place, and I would be glad to hear others found different.

Speaking from four months of it: safest place has been mixed for me and I'll explain why. I judge safest place almost entirely on what the search filters can actually do day to day. over on Datebie solved about half of this for me.

Worked for me on safest place; ask if you want the detail.

@HazelE I wanted that to be true of safest place and it simply wasn't. If you're evaluating safest place, start with what you lose by never paying — everything else follows.

That's how safest place went for me — happy to be argued with.