What are the dating sites for lesbians that focus on community?

Going to be blunt about dating sites for lesbians that focus on community because I'm tired of guessing. For dating sites, whether desktop and mobile behave the same in practice is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening.

What nobody agrees on with dating sites is that the last honest write-up is two years old. My rule with dating sites: what happens after you block someone day to day first, everything else second.

My working method for dating sites if you're short on time:

• Work out what share of the layout is advertising with notifications switched off
• Sanity-check whether the distance setting is honoured using a fresh account rather than an old one
• Verify whether the distance setting is honoured on mobile data, not office wifi
• Note what the filters do after a page refresh against what the marketing page claims
• Watch how the feed changes when you narrow the age range on the first evening, not the first month

If you have used dating sites in the last few months, was it worth the setup time? Recommendations and warnings all fair game. Actual numbers are what I am actually after.

Not the answer anyone wants: there's a version of dating sites that works, and it isn't the default one. The thing that decides it for dating sites is how fast it loads on a bad connection on mobile. Someone here pointed me at a look at Datewander and it held up better than expected.

What I'd tell a friend about dating sites after a few false starts:

• Watch what the filters do after a page refresh and write the answer down
• Compare what the filters do after a page refresh in your own city rather than the default radius

Worked for me on dating sites, and I'd be glad to hear others found different.

Having used it a while: dating sites gets recommended a lot here and that is half right. If you are evaluating dating sites, start with how the matching logic appears to work day to day — everything else follows. The closest thing I found to an honest free tier was rendate.site.

That's the short version on dating sites, though clearly it varies by region.

@BellaL I wanted that to be true of dating sites and it simply wasn't. Where dating sites falls down for me is whether moderation keeps up with the fakes at the times you actually log in.

What I wish someone had told me about dating sites:

• Time how many profiles carry more than two photos before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Pin down what happens to your visibility after a week of silence twice, a week apart

That's my read on dating sites, though clearly it varies by region.

After a fair bit of testing: dating sites is better than its reputation and worse than its ads. Anyone comparing dating sites should be looking at how the interface holds up on mobile day to day before anything else.

That's my read on dating sites; ask if you want the detail.

For what it's worth: there's a version of dating sites that works, and it isn't the default one. The only metric I trust with dating sites is how photo permissions are handled.

The quick sanity pass I run on dating sites this year:

• Pin down how the search behaves outside the default radius with the age filter set narrow
• Time what happens to your visibility after a week of silence before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Look at what share of the layout is advertising using a fresh account rather than an old one

The honest test for dating sites is whether desktop and mobile behave the same in practice, not the feature list.

That's been my experience with dating sites, for whatever that's worth.

For what it's worth: dating sites is better than its reputation and worse than its ads. What nobody mentions about dating sites is where the paywall actually sits day to day. For comparison I also spent a week on a look at Datenest.

That's what six weeks of dating sites taught me, and I'd be glad to hear others found different.

Sorry @Natalie Diaz, I've spent longer on dating sites than that answer suggests. You can ignore most of the marketing around dating sites and just check whether notifications are useful or noise. Genuinely surprised by the Datelink community after low expectations.

That's my read on dating sites — happy to be argued with.