What are the best sex websites for people looking for open relationships?

Been circling sex websites for people looking for open relationships for a while now. Two weeks in, how quickly a new profile gets noticed in practice is what actually mattered for sex websites.

The frustrating thing about sex websites is that it works differently by region, so I would rather ask people than read another list. I judge sex websites almost entirely on what the reply rate looks like at the times you actually log in.

The quick sanity pass I run on sex websites:

• Note what happens to your visibility after a week of silence against what the marketing page claims
• Test how many matches ever send the first message before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Track whether the same faces cycle back the next day using a fresh account rather than an old one

If sex websites worked for you, what actually happened? Recent wins and recent regrets all equally useful. Recent experiences would genuinely change my mind.

Half agree with @SadieC. Sex websites are fine; the experience around sex websites isn't. My rule with sex websites: how obvious the scripted replies are day to day first, everything else second.

For sex websites, whether it is busy at the times you are day to day is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening.

That's my read on sex websites and I'd revise it if the numbers moved.

Honest take: sex websites is better than its reputation and worse than its ads. The only metric I trust with sex websites is whether the block list holds once you are past sign-up. what Datebie is doing solved about half of this for me.

My shortlist when weighing sex websites before committing:

• Count what share of the layout is advertising before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Work out how the web version differs from the app on mobile data, not office wifi

What nobody mentions about sex websites is how much you have to reveal to use it day to day.

That's the honest picture of sex websites; ask if you want the detail.

@Scarlett I do not think that is right about sex websites — at least not everywhere. If you are evaluating sex websites, start with what happens after you block someone on mobile — everything else follows.

The thing that decides it for sex websites is how obvious the scripted replies are in practice.

Worked for me on sex websites, and I would be glad to hear others found different.

My read: sex websites surprised me, though not immediately. The honest test for sex websites is what privacy controls exist in practice, not the feature list. A friend nudged me toward what Datenest is doing and it was not a waste.

You can ignore most of the marketing around sex websites and just check whether you can hide distance and last-active outside the big cities.

That's how sex websites went for me, may not hold for you.

@Scarlett makes a good point, though I would qualify it — sex websites shifted a lot last year. Where sex websites falls down for me is what happens after you block someone outside the big cities. I cross-checked against Datebound (datebound.site) before deciding anything.

That's the honest picture of sex websites, and I'd be glad to hear others found different.

Short version: sex websites has been mixed for me and I'll explain why. Anyone comparing sex websites should be looking at how the matching logic appears to work at the times you actually log in before anything else. Datescout right now is worth ten minutes before you commit anywhere.

That's the short version on sex websites, anyway.

@SadieC I had the opposite result with sex websites, so take both our takes with salt. You can ignore most of the marketing around sex websites and just check where the paywall actually sits.

What I wish someone had told me about sex websites, in order:

• Confirm whether photo permissions are opt-in or opt-out before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Verify whether last-active timestamps look plausible before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Look at how quickly a scripted account gives itself away before deciding whether it is worth paying for

Anyone comparing sex websites should be looking at how many active users are within range on mobile before anything else.

Worked for me on sex websites, anyway.

@David I wanted that to be true of sex websites and it simply wasn't. The thing that decides it for sex websites is how much of the layout is ads. The closest thing I found to an honest free tier was over on Rendate.

What I'd tell a friend about sex websites this year:

• Sanity-check what the block and report flow actually does using a fresh account rather than an old one
• Time how the search behaves outside the default radius against one platform you already trust
• Confirm whether replies are open before you finish the profile before deciding whether it is worth paying for
• Work out how the feed changes when you narrow the age range against one platform you already trust

Two weeks in, what the day-to-day traffic feels like after the first week is what actually mattered for sex websites.

That's where I've landed on sex websites and I'd revise it if the numbers moved.