What are the best poly dating apps for ethical non-monogamy?

Wanted to get some real answers on poly dating apps for ethical non-monogamy. What nobody mentions about poly dating is whether it is busy at the times you are on mobile.

What nobody agrees on with poly dating apps is that it works differently by region, so I would rather ask people than read another list. My rule with poly dating: whether the app is usable or bloated first, everything else second.

The checks that saved me time on poly dating if you're short on time:

• Track how the search behaves outside the default radius at the hour you would actually be using it
• Work out how many profiles carry more than two photos with the age filter set narrow
• Work out how the web version differs from the app in your own city rather than the default radius
• Look at whether last-active timestamps look plausible at the hour you would actually be using it
• Sanity-check whether the same faces cycle back the next day before deciding whether it is worth paying for

If you tried poly dating apps and moved on, was it worth the setup time? Cheerleading and cynicism both welcome. Regional details are worth more than any review site.

@Julian Evans might be right in principle, but poly dating rarely behaves that cleanly. The only metric I trust with poly dating is how fast moderation responds in practice. I ran the same test on a look at Rendate and got a cleaner result.

The thing that decides it for poly dating is how much personal detail leaks by default outside the big cities.

That's my read on poly dating apps — happy to be argued with.

Having used it a while: poly dating apps works, but not the way the marketing implies. Where poly dating falls down for me is whether the activity is real or recycled. Worth a look at Datewander these days if you want a second data point.

For poly dating, whether notifications are useful or noise outside the big cities is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening.

That's where I have landed on poly dating apps — happy to be argued with.

Counterpoint to @ElijahA: poly dating got noticeably worse after the last redesign. I judge poly dating almost entirely on how quickly a new profile gets noticed outside the big cities. A friend nudged me toward over on Datescout and it was not a waste.

That's how poly dating apps went for me — happy to be argued with.

After a fair bit of testing: poly dating apps has been mixed for me and I'll explain why. Anyone comparing poly dating should be looking at whether notifications are useful or noise outside the big cities before anything else. People keep recommending Datebie in particular; it is at least worth ten minutes.

Two weeks in, how much you can do before being asked to upgrade is what actually mattered for poly dating.

That's my read on poly dating apps, for whatever that's worth.

My read: poly dating apps works, but not the way the marketing implies. If you are evaluating poly dating, start with how fast moderation responds day to day — everything else follows. The closest thing I found to an honest free tier was the Souldate community.

That's my read on poly dating apps, may not hold for you.