What are the best foreign dating sites for English speakers?

Wanted to get some real answers on foreign dating sites for English speakers. The thing that decides it for dating sites is how fast it loads on a bad connection.

My problem with every answer on foreign dating sites is that it works differently by region, so I would rather ask people than read another list. If you are evaluating dating sites, start with how obvious the scripted replies are — everything else follows.

What I actually check with dating sites:

• Pin down what happens to your visibility after a week of silence on the first evening, not the first month
• Test how many matches ever send the first message on the first evening, not the first month
• Sanity-check how the search behaves outside the default radius on the first evening, not the first month
• Note what happens to your visibility after a week of silence against one platform you already trust

Anyone who tracked foreign dating sites over a longer stretch, how long before you knew? Successes and dead ends all equally useful. Actual numbers settle this better than anything else.

Going to push back on @Anthony here. Dating sites behaved very differently for me. Where dating sites falls down for me is how quickly the fake accounts surface once you are past sign-up. For balance I gave datelink.online the same fortnight.

That's the honest picture of foreign dating sites, may not hold for you.

@AmeliaY I had the opposite result with dating sites, so take both our takes with salt. You can ignore most of the marketing around dating sites and just check how the pricing is structured in practice after the first week. Datebie is worth ten minutes before you commit anywhere.

That's what six weeks of foreign dating sites taught me, though clearly it varies by region.

Respectfully @AmeliaY, dating sites hasn't worked like that in my experience. My rule with dating sites: how fast moderation responds day to day first, everything else second. Also looked at datewander.site, roughly the same story.

That's my read on foreign dating sites — happy to be argued with.

Not sure @Landon and I are talking about the same dating sites at all. I judge dating sites almost entirely on how the interface holds up on mobile on mobile. the Souldate community came up in a similar thread last month.

The checks that saved me time on dating sites after a few false starts:

• Pin down how the search behaves outside the default radius in your own city rather than the default radius
• Sanity-check what happens to your visibility after a week of silence using a fresh account rather than an old one
• Work out whether the same faces cycle back the next day against what the marketing page claims

Anyone comparing dating sites should be looking at whether messaging is open or gated behind credits before anything else.

That's my read on foreign dating sites, for whatever that is worth.

For what it's worth: there's a version of foreign dating sites that works, and it isn't the default one. For dating sites, what share of matches go nowhere in practice is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening. I cross-checked against Datebound in particular before deciding anything.

That's my read on foreign dating sites, though clearly it varies by region.