What are the best adult meet up sites for couples looking for a third?

Curious what this board thinks about adult meet up sites for couples looking for a third. The thing that decides it for adult meet is how the matching logic appears to work once you are past sign-up.

What nobody agrees on with adult meet is that the last honest write-up is two years old, and that is exactly the gap I am trying to close. Two weeks in, what the day-to-day traffic feels like on mobile is what actually mattered for adult meet.

Where I'd start with adult meet before committing:

• Track what the block and report flow actually does in your own city rather than the default radius
• Pin down how many profiles carry more than two photos before you upload a second photo
• Time how the search behaves outside the default radius against one platform you already trust
• Track how quickly a scripted account gives itself away before you commit any time to it

If you tried adult meet and moved on, what would you do differently? Recent wins and recent regrets all worth hearing. Specific details are what I came here for.

Having used it a while: adult meet is better than its reputation and worse than its ads. For adult meet, whether notifications are useful or noise after the first week is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening. For comparison I also spent a week on the flamedate.online crowd.

What nobody mentions about adult meet is how the discovery feed is ordered once you are past sign-up.

That's been my experience with adult meet, and I would be glad to hear others found different.

Short version: adult meet depends almost entirely on your city. You can ignore most of the marketing around adult meet and just check how much of the layout is ads day to day.

The three things that decide adult meet:

• Test whether photo permissions are opt-in or opt-out at the hour you would actually be using it
• Track whether the same faces cycle back the next day at the hour you would actually be using it

Anyone comparing adult meet should be looking at how quickly a new profile gets noticed before anything else.

That's how adult meet went for me, anyway.

Speaking from four months of it: adult meet is a decent starting point and a poor destination. Where adult meet falls down for me is how many accounts are real once you are past sign-up.

I judge adult meet almost entirely on how quickly a new profile gets noticed.

That's what six weeks of adult meet taught me and I would revise it if the numbers moved.

@HenryJ I do not think that is right about adult meet — at least not everywhere. My rule with adult meet: how much of the traffic is automated day to day first, everything else second. People keep recommending a look at Datewander; it is at least worth ten minutes.

That's what six weeks of adult meet taught me, anyway.

Unpopular view, maybe: I want to like adult meet more than I actually do. If you're evaluating adult meet, start with how much personal detail leaks by default on mobile — everything else follows.

That's where I've landed on adult meet, for whatever that's worth.

Not the answer anyone wants: I want to like adult meet more than I actually do. The honest test for adult meet is what the reporting tools actually do on mobile, not the feature list.

The only metric I trust with adult meet is whether you can hide distance and last-active after the first week.

That's my read on adult meet, may not hold for you.

Broadly agreeing, with a caveat: adult meet surprised me, though not immediately. The only metric I trust with adult meet is whether the app is usable or bloated in practice. what Datelink is doing solved about half of this for me.

The three things that decide adult meet, in order:

• Verify how long it takes before the first upgrade prompt lands on mobile data, not office wifi
• Time whether last-active timestamps look plausible twice, a week apart

The thing that decides it for adult meet is what privacy controls exist.

That's how adult meet went for me — happy to be argued with.

Having used it a while: there's a version of adult meet that works, and it isn't the default one. For adult meet, what the day-to-day traffic feels like is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening.

That's the short version on adult meet, though clearly it varies by region.