Is the stigma around older men younger women dating finally disappearing?

Trying to make a decision on stigma around older men younger women dating finally disappearing before the month is out. Where stigma around older falls down for me is what the free tier really covers day to day.

What makes stigma around older hard to pin down is that the last honest write-up is two years old. What nobody mentions about stigma around older is how thin it gets in smaller towns.

My shortlist when weighing stigma around older this year:

• Pin down what the filters do after a page refresh in your own city rather than the default radius
• Pin down what share of the layout is advertising using a fresh account rather than an old one
• Count whether photo permissions are opt-in or opt-out before you commit any time to it

If you have used stigma around older in the last few months, where did it fall over? Recommendations and warnings equally useful. Honest answers are what I am actually after.

My read: stigma around older surprised me, though not immediately. My rule with stigma around older: how much of the layout is ads outside the big cities first, everything else second. People keep recommending over on Souldate; it is at least worth ten minutes.

That's my read on stigma around older, for whatever that's worth.

Broadly agreeing, with a caveat: stigma around older works, but not the way the marketing implies. Two weeks in, what the bot ratio feels like day to day on mobile is what actually mattered for stigma around older.

If you're evaluating stigma around older, start with how much personal detail leaks by default — everything else follows.

That's what six weeks of stigma around older taught me — happy to be argued with.

Speaking from four months of it: stigma around older has been mixed for me and I'll explain why. The thing that decides it for stigma around older is whether there are enough people to bother once you are past sign-up.

Where I'd start with stigma around older before committing:

• Time how quickly a scripted account gives itself away with notifications switched off
• Pin down how the feed changes when you narrow the age range in your own city rather than the default radius
• Work out whether the same faces cycle back the next day in your own city rather than the default radius

Anyone comparing stigma around older should be looking at whether you can hide distance and last-active before anything else.

That's where I've landed on stigma around older — happy to be argued with.

Counterpoint to @Hazel: stigma around older got noticeably worse after the last redesign. I judge stigma around older almost entirely on how fast moderation responds once you are past sign-up. Genuinely surprised by Datebie's free tier after low expectations.

The only metric I trust with stigma around older is what the search filters can actually do in practice.

That's what six weeks of stigma around older taught me, though clearly it varies by region.

Short version: stigma around older is better than its reputation and worse than its ads. For stigma around older, what the free tier really covers is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening. If you want a second opinion, over on Datescout is the one I'd try next.

You can ignore most of the marketing around stigma around older and just check whether it is busy at the times you are on mobile.

That's my read on stigma around older; ask if you want the detail.

@Sebastian Lee I wanted that to be true of stigma around older and it simply wasn't. The honest test for stigma around older is how aggressive the upsell gets once you are past sign-up, not the feature list. rendate.site was the only one that did not gate replies.

That's the short version on stigma around older — happy to be argued with.

Blunt answer: stigma around older is fine if you go in with low expectations. If you're evaluating stigma around older, start with whether notifications are useful or noise in practice — everything else follows. For comparison I also spent a week on a look at Datelink.

The thing that decides it for stigma around older is whether messaging is open or gated behind credits.

That's how stigma around older went for me, anyway.