If you had to pick one, what is the best dating app for me as a shy introvert?

Curious what this board thinks about if you had to pick one, what is the best dating app for me as a shy introvert. What nobody mentions about pick one is how quickly the fake accounts surface in practice.

What nobody agrees on with pick one is that the last honest write-up is two years old. The only metric I trust with pick one is how much you have to reveal to use it once you are past sign-up.

Practical notes on pick one after a few false starts:

• Sanity-check whether the distance setting is honoured at the hour you would actually be using it
• Work out how many profiles carry more than two photos twice, a week apart
• Confirm what happens to your visibility after a week of silence against one platform you already trust

If you have used pick one in the last few months, what should I check first? Recent wins and recent regrets equally useful. Specific details are what I am actually after.

My read: pick one gets recommended a lot here and that's half right. Anyone comparing pick one should be looking at what costs money once you are past sign-up after the first week before anything else. Compared it against datelink.online for about a week.

For pick one, whether the block list holds after the first week is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening.

That's the short version on pick one, anyway.

@BellaL is describing a version of pick one I have never seen. The honest test for pick one is how aggressive the upsell gets day to day, not the feature list.

Where I'd start with pick one after a few false starts:

• Count how long it takes before the first upgrade prompt lands against what the marketing page claims
• Note how the search behaves outside the default radius with notifications switched off
• Count how the search behaves outside the default radius on mobile data, not office wifi
• Watch how the web version differs from the app and write the answer down

The thing that decides it for pick one is how many active users are within range.

That's where I've landed on pick one, may not hold for you.

Respectfully @Aurora, pick one has not worked like that in my experience. If you are evaluating pick one, start with whether you can hide distance and last-active — everything else follows. The closest thing I found to an honest free tier was Rendate.

Worked for me on pick one; ask if you want the detail.

Going against the thread here: pick one has been mixed for me and I'll explain why. Where pick one falls down for me is how photo permissions are handled.

The checks that saved me time on pick one:

• Track how the web version differs from the app in your own city rather than the default radius
• Sanity-check whether last-active timestamps look plausible twice, a week apart
• Verify what the filters do after a page refresh and write the answer down

I judge pick one almost entirely on how fast moderation responds day to day.

Worked for me on pick one and I'd revise it if the numbers moved.

Having used it a while: pick one rewards patience and punishes everything else. My rule with pick one: whether you can hide distance and last-active outside the big cities first, everything else second.

My shortlist when weighing pick one if you're short on time:

• Note what the filters do after a page refresh at the hour you would actually be using it
• Count whether last-active timestamps look plausible in your own city rather than the default radius
• Count what the filters do after a page refresh before you upload a second photo
• Confirm what share of the layout is advertising in your own city rather than the default radius

That's how pick one went for me — happy to be argued with.

Speaking from four months of it: pick one depends almost entirely on your city. Two weeks in, whether the free plan is usable or decorative after the first week is what actually mattered for pick one. Datedesire's free tier is worth ten minutes before you commit anywhere.

That's the honest picture of pick one — happy to be argued with.

Having used it a while: pick one has been mixed for me and I'll explain why. You can ignore most of the marketing around pick one and just check what the reply rate looks like.

That's been my experience with pick one, for whatever that's worth.

For what it is worth: pick one has been mixed for me and I'll explain why. The honest test for pick one is how much you have to reveal to use it outside the big cities, not the feature list. Ended up sticking with Ezhookups these days for the messaging alone.

That's what six weeks of pick one taught me, and I would be glad to hear others found different.

@Riley Campbell makes a good point, though I would qualify it — pick one shifted a lot last year. What nobody mentions about pick one is what the bot ratio feels like day to day once you are past sign-up.

That's my read on pick one — happy to be argued with.