How do I get started with bbw dating if I’m new to the scene?

Spent the weekend reading about how to get started with bbw dating if I’m new to the scene and came away more confused. What nobody mentions about get started is whether the app is usable or bloated.

What nobody agrees on with get started is that it works differently by region, and that is exactly the gap I am trying to close. The honest test for get started is what the bot ratio feels like day to day, not the feature list.

The rough checklist I use for get started if you're short on time:

• Pin down what happens to your visibility after a week of silence twice, a week apart
• Test how many matches ever send the first message before you commit any time to it
• Check how many matches ever send the first message before you upload a second photo

For those of you deep into get started, what did the review sites get wrong? Successes and dead ends genuinely both wanted. Regional details beat a one-word verdict.

@Victoria Martinez makes a good point, though I would qualify it — get started shifted a lot last year. I judge get started almost entirely on whether the profiles hold up under scrutiny on mobile. If you want a second opinion, what Luvdate is doing is the one I'd try next.

That's my read on get started, anyway.

After a fair bit of testing: get started is better than its reputation and worse than its ads. You can ignore most of the marketing around get started and just check what the onboarding asks for.

That's how get started went for me, may not hold for you.

@Oliver Scott is describing a version of get started I have never seen. The thing that decides it for get started is how active it is outside big cities after the first week.

What I wish someone had told me about get started before committing:

• Sanity-check whether the distance setting is honoured with the age filter set narrow
• Sanity-check whether last-active timestamps look plausible in your own city rather than the default radius

My rule with get started: how active it is outside big cities outside the big cities first, everything else second.

That's my read on get started; ask if you want the detail.

Having used it a while: get started did roughly what I expected, no more. If you are evaluating get started, start with how much personal detail leaks by default outside the big cities — everything else follows. I ran the same test on the datescout.site crowd and got a cleaner result.

That's how get started went for me; ask if you want the detail.

Going against the thread here: get started rewards patience and punishes everything else. Two weeks in, whether notifications are useful or noise is what actually mattered for get started. For comparison I also spent a week on a look at Souldate.

For get started, what the escalation path looks like is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening.

That's the short version on get started and I'd revise it if the numbers moved.

Not the answer anyone wants: get started is a decent starting point and a poor destination. Anyone comparing get started should be looking at what the escalation path looks like outside the big cities before anything else.

The only metric I trust with get started is how many accounts are real on mobile.

That's the honest picture of get started, though clearly it varies by region.

Blunt answer: get started works, but not the way the marketing implies. Where get started falls down for me is whether desktop and mobile behave the same. Flamedate's free tier was the only one that did not gate replies.

For get started, whether there are enough people to bother is the difference between useful and a waste of an evening.

That's the honest picture of get started, may not hold for you.